Yesterday brought a fierce wind storm that brought down the weakened giants and sheared the branches clean off the mighty tall ones.
If you were to walk in the forest or on a treed road today, you'd see beautiful greenery littered all around. I've often marveled at these seemingly healthy looking bits of branches strewn about the ground. In fact, I've been puzzling over them for a few years now. For they look so lush and full of life. Why do they break free from their host?
My answer finally came to me during my Grief call last Saturday. This is nature's way of pruning. This is how the tree retains its life force for decades and even centuries. It loosens its attachments to its extremities and lets the wind carry the branches away. In doing so, the energy of the tree becomes more potent. Further, the branches return to the earth to nourish the growth and life of the living organisms around it. What an elegant cycle.
Grief serves the same purpose for us. Grief, fully felt and experienced, allows us to loosen our attachments to that which has passed from our lives or to that which currently no longer serves us so we can release it into the universal field where it is recycled and turned into nourishment for us.
For example, when my grandmother died in 2012 I locked my sorrow into my body and held it there for several months. When I finally sat with my grief and with her, my relationship with her changed dramatically. I released my attachment to her physical presence and in doing so opened up a new connection with her. In many ways my relationship with her now is deeper and more rich than when she was living. It's gone to the level that we would have liked to have but were unable to express in human form. All pretense and social conditioning are gone so we can talk about everything.
Do I still miss her? Yes. Do I still cry sometimes? Of course. And I rejoice in our nourishing relationship that could only come to pass by her passing.
The same is true for the evolution of relationships with yourself and with others. It's true for releasing an outdated career or lifestyle. Grief is the mechanism for releasing anything that no longer serves you.
Grief, fully processed, creates space for the new to come in. It creates space for you to invite in the old that does serve you and that you had moved away from until now.
I invite you to sit with your grief. To allow it to move through you. To step into the wonder of what lies beyond. If you would like a guide for this, you can purchase my Grief recording here.
Wishing you joy,
Welcome. This is where I share what's on my mind and in my heart. You'll see that there's an offer to work with me in every letter. I'm shifting that as I go. Whether the offers excite you or turn you off I hope you find a juicy nugget or two in here that infuses you with more of you. Be kind to yourself because you rock. - Kate