I have a dragon inside of me. She's snaggle-toothed and fierce. I love my dragon because I know that when the chips are down I will be able to do what needs to be done in an array of life situations. She's a survivor. She knows to hush my voice and to heighten my senses when I enter a dark alley at night. She guides me to adventure in far away places. She guides me to adventure at home.
My dragon is fierce.
I have a dove inside of me. She's delicate and vulnerable. She's nurturing and loyal. She's devoted to her mate and to her children. I love my dove because she is teaching me that I don't have to push so hard to get things done.
My dove is merciful.
My dove is willing to sacrifice being right to be happy.
My dragon isn't.
I've been pretending that I don't have a dragon inside of me. For all of her awesomeness, I'm afraid of her destructive force. The irony of this, of course, is that the more I ignore her, the more I push her aside, the more destructive she becomes. She pushes her way through at the most inopportune times. Like Anakin Skywalker, I end up expressing the one thing that I'm trying to prevent: misused rage.
When that happens my nervous system goes on overload and the fuses are blown.
While my dragon retreats to her lair, her fire completely used up, dove comes in with her soothing balm and resets the world. She makes things okay again. She just knows what to do.
I've been pretending that I don't have a dove inside of me. While I value her nurturing quality I have seen her as too delicate to get things done. I'm afraid she'll put everything and everyone first leaving nothing for me. Growing up, she just wasn't the survival mechanism that could get me through. As an adult in this phase of my life she is now my lifeline. In the past my go to was to use my fierceness to push through anything. Now even the slightest pushing leaves me flat for days to even weeks. By necessity I am learning how not to trod on dove and to lean into her subtle and more gentle approach to life.
I love my dove because she is teaching me that I don't have to push so hard to get things done.
When dove flies she flaps her wings and uses her subtle senses to feel when the wind can lift her higher. She gets help. She does her part and allows the wind to do its part.
That's a superpower.
That's the power of delicate.
Delicate dove makes it possible for fierce dragon to do what she does best without burning out her fire. She helps dragon to direct her energy toward appropriate creative and destructive force, which is one of dragon's greatest gifts.
I have a dragon and a dove inside of me. For the first time in my life both are welcome at the same time. Now fierce and fragile are teaming up and understanding each other in a new and different way. I see great promise in this liaison. I can already feel a new era of peaceful ferocity growing inside of me. The disruptive and confusing back and forth of dragon and dove are becoming a thing of the past. I can't wait to experience and to see what they create together.
In solidarity for the fragile and fierce,
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